It indeed has been a while since my last post. Notwithstanding, I did publish a teaser on my Facebook fan page. This topic I have chosen this time is emotional intelligence. Something the large majority of people lack even nowadays. I myself am learning how to apply it in my everyday life. Given that I have had to deal with a couple of rough situations in the past few weeks, it has in fact been essential for me to acquire some knowledge of this approach to life. In the following, am I going to address the essentials of this quality we should all have and provide some real life examples on them.

 

To begin with, it should be taken into account that emotional intelligence is not an inborn talent. Thus, the need for us to develop it through time. Our ability to either disarm people who have desire to hurt us, or successfully deal with an imminent conflict must be attained progressively. Albeit, the aforesaid is not easy task. Not only does it take skill and discipline to gain this capacity, quite a large amount of willpower must be added into the mixture so as to make it second-nature. Let me give you an illustration to elucidate on my explanation. Back when I was slightly younger, I happened to be about to leave the parking lot of a hospital with my mother. Be that as it may, out of nowhere, a person rear-ended her. Consequently, the only thing I resorted to doing was to get out of the car and yell at the man. The aforementioned yelled back at me and threatened to beat me up. Even so, I did not confront him physically. What I did instead was to call both the police and the insurance company. They were in fact the ones who ultimately dealt with the issue at hand.

 

What would have happened however, had I accepted that man's challenge to a physical confrontation. Well, I can tell you one thing for sure. By no means would things have ended in a better fashion. As a matter of fact, in my reaction in the previous paragraph I had used emotional intelligence without even knowing of its existence. Still and all, I have yet to spend time trying to master it. What is more, the ability to know how to express our feelings and emotions in a capable manner has to be learned by all. In point of fact, the information I shared in my teaser is quite true. If more schools implemented emotional intelligence programs throughout the world, the amount of high-school drop-outs and failed students would fall dramatically. The numbers are listed in the video I posted with the aforesaid teaser. This sort capability could have indeed help my deal in a better manner with the issue I had about three years ago. Case in point, had I known how to use emotional intelligence back then, I would have probably not even seen the need to quit school.

 

You live and learn as they say, I am going to employ most my time and efforts on mastering this skill. In fact, some even say it is more important than to have an off-the-charts IQ. It does make sense if you think about it however. What purpose could all the knowledge in the world serve to you, if you were unable to deal with difficult social situations at your work-place for instance? Being aware that emotions can drive our behavior and impact others in either a positive or negative way is crucial to keep in mind at all times. Never forget that it takes two to start a fight. Not to mention that most of the time knowing how to dissuade people from willing to fight  you is the best quality you could ever have.  

 

PS. As always, I will add a video to reinforce my explanations.

 

Sources:

- The School of Life YouTube Channel

- Actualized.org