How To Let Go Of The Past (And Overcome Guilt, Anger, Shame & Fear)

Hopelesness is what I have the most now. To be honest I have no idea what to do at this point. You see, I am the kind of folk who finds it impossible to forgive himself. As of today, I will try to keep my mind busy. Nonetheless, there are emotional scars I have inside me that are unlikely to ever heal.

 

Many tell me I should play my part, try harder, etc. Even so, my inner fears prevent me from moving on in life. I have been squirming out of my problems for a long time now. Not to mention that my mind has been clouded by hatred towards the ones who hurt me in the past. Have I always been scared of taking chances so as to see a big change in my life. Many times have I tried to pull through my depression on my own. Still and all, at this point in my life I would rather resume my visits to the shrink.

 

Irrespective of what people may say about me venting my problems on the Internet, I feel comfortable doing it. Is it not been easy to break loose from my kin´s control. Be that as it may, I should start walking the walk instead of talking the talk. It sickens me to think about all the mistakes I have made. Nonetheless, I still believe that regardless of all the misfortunes I may have run into, I still can make something out of myself. In addition to the aforesaid difficulties, the amount of misgivings I have had before deciding anything important in the past few years, have been countless.  

 

Lastly, I am going to share a short video about how we can overcome our fears. For instance, in my case, being circumscribed by my family´s overprotection has made me believe things that are not true about myself. Thus, the need for a massive change in my existence. Have I been building castles in the sky for so long, that it is not even funny anymore. Hence, whether or not I eschew my responsibilities even more is up to me. To wrap this up, I would like to add in the following quote: ¨ A great nation is like a great man: when he makes a mistake, he realizes it. Having realized it, he admits it. Having admitted it, he corrects it. He considers those who point out his faults as his most benevolent teachers¨. (Lao Tzu)

HD - Rocky Balboa (2006) - inspirational speech

If you stumble upon a rock and bruise your knee, ice it yourself; most people will not care. Unfortunately, that is the way the world works. No matter how many motivational speeches or self-help books you watch or read. This world is a tough place to live in. Thus, if you do not take your chances, you are no one. Irrespective of what I have gone through, I do not consider myself to be a basket case. Nonetheless, am  I going to have to max out my skills so as to get at least one chance to succeed. Anyhow, without any more preamble, am I going to start with today´s topic.

 

Ever since I started writing, only one friend has commented on my blog so far. It is incredible how you feel you can trust only a few. You see, in order for me to stay in task, do I need motivation. Something I cannot get on a daily basis unfortunately. Besides, success works in conjunction with mental health. Hence, my occasional visits to the therapist so as to keep on the right track. Is it indeed impossible explicate a perfect state of happiness. Be that as it may, I personally believe that if you end up doing what you like for a living, things pick up eventually. Consequently, the need for parents and educators to incentivize their children to like a subject in particular.

 

I have always loved English for instance. Even so, I did not get to have good English teachers. Not to mention that I did not know why I had to study it that much. My family told me I had to learn it as an order. Albeit, they did not tell me why. You see, you must encourage children to like a subject. Otherwise they will not learn it properly. You cannot force a child to learn something if they have no idea why. Therein lies the failure of my next of kin. Regardless of the fact that I did get to learn English, I did it hard way. Do I get anything now by blaming my selfish relatives though?. No, I just have to go jogging or whatnot so as to liberate myself from stress.

 

My point is, you cannot let anything keep you down. You must find ways to get your confidence up no matter what. By no means should you let depression creep in any time you feel weak. What is more by veering off negative thoughts, you are making progress. Try for instance to shift your attention to a task you have to do or find something interesting to work on. Lastly, I would say that we must get used to standing up for ourselves. Not always  will we have a friend to bail us out each time we encounter a bully who gives us a shabby treatment.

How to avoid being manipulated

Things are picking up now. Nonetheless, still do I worry about my English becoming rusty due to lack of practice. In my defence, I could say that at least now I am not delaying in doing what I believe to be right. Today I am going to talk about being manipulated by others. Especially your family. Something that has happened to me ever since I can remember and am trying to change.

 

Families are almost never the ones indicated so as to confer important information with about your future decisions. If I have seen the film ¨The dead poets´ society¨ you know what I mean. The poor boy ended up killing himself because his dad was a selfish bastard. Sometimes families can be that way. Either owing to ignorance or stubbornness. Whatever the reason may be, in most cases inconsiderate families can go as far as to crumbling their offspring future. These unfortunate situations take place especially in third world nations, where education is commercialized in a nasty manner. For instance, most private colleges in Lima, new ones in particular, do as follows: They usually send one or two representatives to most of the high schools in their area so as to get applicants. Once they have got the attention of their parents, they let the fish enter the net.

 

Thus, we have got two major problems in countries such as this. For starters, we have got the worst educational system in South America, Not to mention, irresponsible parents. Does the local government give a darn? No, it does not. Still and all, there is a few youngsters who actually make their own decisions for a change. Yet, pressuring unwary teenagers into rushing them into decisions they may regret later is wrong. Many people ride over their children´s lifes owing to the fact that they were only thinking about themselves. Not only is it our responsibility to help our future generations whittle down their fears. What is more, we must assist them instead of holding them back in their career choice path.

 

In review, I must say that irrespective of our beliefs, we should nurse our children only so far. The more independence we give them the better. Thus, the need for us to educate ourselves as much as possible not to make the same mistakes our parents made when they had us. The bible says: ¨We are pressed on every side by difficulties, but we are not crushed¨. Truth be told though, I am not entirely sure about the credibility of the aforesaid phrase.  Remember that our insecurity signals failure most of the time. Do not transmit fear into your child´s mind. In lieu of that, help them build on their strenghts.

Assertiveness - Tips for being assertive & saying 'No'

Things are picking up. Nonetheless, there is still a long way to go. I still tend to hark back to how things could have been better in the past, Still and all, I do less frequently than before. Is it not easy for me to forget the hardships I had to endure in the past. Truth be told, I am the kind of person who stuffs his emotions until they explode. Thus, the need for me to make a considerable change in my behavior. Today, I am going to talk about something I think not only I, but some other folks lack too: Assertiveness...

Many a time have I clammed up after being insulted or whatnot due to my shyness. Despite the fact that I try to overcome it, it is not that easy though. After having been chafed under my families´ control for so many years, is it yet hard for me to become the person I want to be. Irrespective of my achievements,  do I yet feel incomplete. Still, there are noteworthy goals I want to accomplish. Be that as it may, am I going to have to deal with my personality first. Hence, it is understandable that I am constantly apprehensive of the future owing to my past failures. Anyhow, did I need to get some mixed feelings off my chest. Therefore, I decided to write this post today. Now that I think about it, one of the things that could help me surmount my fears would be to tighten my relationships.

Ever since I came back from Canada, have I been holding grudges against different people. Hence, preventing myself from progressing on even further. I am not the kind of person who agrees with the philosophy of South Americans. whom believe that supporting their children until they are thirty is a common thing. Conversely, in the first world things are different. For instance, it is extremely normal for an  American child to start out working when they are 16. Things are beginning to change though. Regardless, of the limitations of underdeveloped countries, they are trying to mimic the Anglo-Saxon concept more than ever. Even so, it is going to take longer for countries such as Peru to get used to a civilized life-style. You may be asking why on earth I got off on a tangent. Let me explain, for people whose personalities are not so tough, it is harder to survive in an uncivilized city. Therefore, my reason for bringing up some own take on how the third world functions nowadays. Issues such as public transport are yet to be sorted out in countries such as Peru and Bolivia. Not to mention that the lack of libraries and educational resources on this part of the globe makes it even more difficult for aspiring students to succeed.

Lastly, I would say as follows: The ones who have been lucky enough to succeed in this parts despite their humble beginnings, are those who have toughened up from an early age. Hence, their ability to muster the courage to overcome almost any sort of obstacles. From being able to bear people being irate with them at work to God knows what else. In order to fulfill your goals, you have to make lots of sacrifices. Notwithstanding, by not letting you closed ones to shove their beliefs down your throat your making a huge progress. For instance, building up routines and finding ways to jump-start each one of your days are relevant factors for success. Finding what makes you tick can keep you going for hours non-stop. If your still on the looking such as myself, try to ascertain ways to keep yourself motivated every day. Remember: ¨A little of what you fancy, does you good¨

I am thankful to God for giving me one more day of life. Nonetheless, after what I experienced, am I still a little bit worried. A friend told me earlier that I should cry out to God for help. The problem is that I don´t know how to.  Even though I deviated from my routine, I have a reason for doing so. I felt down and did not know how to snap out of it. I mean I wish I could rewire my mind and start behaving the way I want to. Still and all, it is not possible. Doctors may have been able to fix up my body. My mind though, is something that I cannot get a grip of. We know for a fact that common sense marries health. We also know that one we can rid ourselves of our bad habits. At the end of the day though, life is not as easy as it seems to be.

Anyhow, there are many things I still need to straighten out. Such as my health and education. Before my hunger for knowledge would dominate my life. However, now I don´t know what makes me tick anymore. I constantly have to bring myself to doing things I don´t like doing. For one thing life goes on too fast; and for another doing things is what keeps us alive. Not to mention, that one of the things that could help me a lot would be to wash my hands of the past. Be that as it may, I find the latter extremely hard to accomplish. Do I believe that due to my social anxiety, I find myself being cold-shoulder by people on a daily basis. I tend to spend time sulking, only if I know the person that is. To be honest, I think my own insecurity brings myself down to my knees. Although, there must be a way for me to work up courage to overcome my fears.

Have I realized I cannot go through life expecting some sort adventitious miracle happen. What is more, I think that planning can make the difference. Besides, milking drama will only bring myself down. Not only should I be receptive to ideas, but also observant of what is going on around me. By the way, have I noticed I should also inject some humor into this blog. Albeit, since I have been through a rough time recently I cannot think of anything positive to say. Would I just like to add that I do not exactly miss the beat when it comes to social situations. Nonetheless, I can effectively deal with situations that require you to be more patient than usual.

In review, I would say that yet there are many things I have left undone. Being a natural procrastinator does not help much. Will I try to draw a veil over the past and move on. Despite the fact that as I have said many times, I believe to be unlucky enough to learn things untimely. After what I have live through thus far, I do not think I will be able to jump off the page of my career of interest. Albeit, I think that at least I deserve to have a decent life as much as any other folk. May I feel like a ship at the point of sinking right now. Truth be told, I thought, that getting the job I had applied to while at the same time studying to become a teacher would have been the ¨cherry¨ my pie needed. Even so, things did not turn out my way. Time draws on and I need to find a new activity so as to detoxify my mind of bad thoughts.

How to Schedule Your Day as a Creative

I must lay down some ground rules for myself. In order to reorder my life after a short relapse, am I going to have to make some fast decisions. For instance, the first thing I am going to do today is to buy an alarm clock right after I leave home. Even though I have been climbing the walls with worry after my accident. By the way, I´d rather not talk about it due to my willingness to trying to forget it. You see, I am trying to get my gears going. Hence, the need for me to live it down.

 

Do I tend to monopolize my posts sometimes. However, since I usually tend to go through a lot of stuff on a daily basis,  I can´t help it sometimes. In order to safeguard myself against anxiety, I am going to have to partake in a meaningful activity. Despite the fact that I yet have not found it, am I still looking for it. Well, last night, I went to an English class a missionary directed me to. Did I have a good time, Considering the fact that  I had missed many class last week; it made me feel better to partake in this one.

 

Sometimes, I regard myself as an obdurate person. Nonetheless, it is not insane to harbor a grudge against people who have hurt you in the past. To be honest, I find some of my family members to be as slippery as an eel. Anyhow, still do I don´t know how I will get around to finding a new job. In the meantime, I am prepping myself for my studies by cleaning down my school supplies. Since I start tomorrow, I do not have that much time to think. Even though I have been drifting from one activity to the other throughout my entire life without a clear path, I still have hope.

 

In review, I am healing myself for now and thinking about my future. Having been a victim of all the precepts dictated by either society or my kin on how to do things, I still find my mind beclouded. Consequently, it is essential for me to take it easy at present. I must Schedule my day in an orderly way and hope for the best. What is more, the busier I am, the better will I  feel. By and large, last week has been tough. Be that as it may, I can´t let it stop me from getting around my problems.